by JOSH RICHARDSON
Our perception of our own self-worth is how we ultimately judge the value of anything outside of ourselves. It could be anything…a relationship, a great functional pair of shoes, or a reliable piece of technology. You never know how valuable something is until it’s gone and you rarely realize it while you have it. When we appreciate everything in our lives, we have a sense of gratitude for the simple things that make a difference. The more you are grateful, the more things will come into your life to be grateful for, and consequently value becomes a constant rather than something wavering.
Self-respect is one of the most crucial aspects of our lives. If we do not understand how to appreciate ourselves and our worth, how can we ever expect others to?
There are social and cultural systems at play which influence our views and personal values. From the time we start school to the time we enter our career path, society is constantly trying to guide our emotions in an effort to make us feel incomplete, or below par, if we don‘t buy what they are selling. This affects our self-worth and self-respect.
“Consumption-Vanity Disorder” is an invented disease as are the thousands of others fabricated by our modern medical paradigm, but with one exception — it is a disease of the mass mental mindset and unlike the fictionalized diagnoses of other medical maladies, this one is a reality. It has spread not through a mutating virus or genetic predisposition – but through cultural “Memes” – turning the world into a cesspool of mini-malls, fashion obsessions, fake boobs and belligerent gadgetry.
These distorted views cause us to underestimate the value of many things in our lives. We place the highest value on things, relationships and experiences before we have them, and then once we do, that value diminishes over time. Only once we’ve lost what we have valued do we appreciate that value at the same or higher level before we had it in the first place.
When we place greater importance on external validation rather than internal validation those distortions are amplified. It’s human nature to want the approval of others, but it should not be the standard by which we gauge our own worth.
This does not come easy so a conscious effort must be consistently made on a day-to-day basis. A lack of self-respect can, and most often does, result in depression and self-destructive behaviors. We need to reinforce our positive qualities and actively try to fix our negative qualities. When everything else in the world fails we will always have our self-respect to fall back on. How feel about ourself affects every single aspect of our life…