Author: Soren Dreie
The difference is that when we´re just selfish, we act out of self-interest and self-interest only, especially at the expense of other people. It’s: me, me, me. Big Ego. Selfishness in this state is based on fear. Fear of missing out on any need we have. Fear of being overlooked. Fear of letting: Live and Let Live.
Consciously selfish is a spiritual thing.
When we walk the path of self-development, we often take in the programming of the Ego as being a bad thing and a bad thing only, which would embed selfishness. We take on the belief that it is counterproductive.
It is not so much a bad thing – it is more a trait in one’s character that needs to be disciplined, mastered and transformed.
The first time we may act Consciously Selfish is when we step out of whatever programming we are under or exposed to and the first word we meet from the nasty little frontline of the bigger control system – being friends, co-workers, family – when we must insist on breaking free is: You´re Selfish!
So, all of the sudden Selfishness, in the System based on selfishness, is a problem.
That means there is Selfishness and then there is the selfishness of: Personal Freedom and the right to pursue it. Yes, this world is mad. This is where we have to stand our ground and demand the right to live exactly as we want for ourselves without being a prisoner or a slave to the conformity of the Matrix.
It is a double bind effect, since we are blasted with selfishness being a bad thing from people who actually are very selfish in not allowing us to express or live in accordance with the pull we feel inside.
Messy. But the healing lies in the concept of Consciously Selfish.
People exposed to that, and I think we all have been, could see only ‘Personal Needs’, ‘Personal Ambition’ and ‘Nurturing Oneself’ as a reminiscence of the Ego and a setback if they should tend to go into Selfish behavior. But the term Selfish, doesn’t really apply anymore, since it seems to have gone away, and ‘Serving’ others has become the mindset.
My point being: That if you are not capable of being Selfish, this world will eat you up. Drain your batteries. Drain your trust in fellow beings, and much worse: spark an internal dialogue that tells you that you are such a selfish being, and you should be ashamed.
New Age programming can be very evil and counterproductive sometimes, and if you haven’t allowed yourself to go Selfish, it’s about time that you give yourself that permission.
I am talking the New Selfish – Consciously Selfish, since when it is a feeling or a state of mind that you can choose, it also means that you can un-choose it when your reasons for taking it on have been satisfied.
The differences of course are: Before, you started down the path you’re on, you were just plain selfish. You didn’t have a choice, because society programmed you that way. Selfishness seems to be the overall drive here. Then you broke that programming so much that you think it’s wrong to revisit, but it isn’t. It’s a spiritual survival dynamic.
If you ever need somebody’s approval to go Consciously Selfish, well, here it is. Do it. Point being, that you shouldn’t ask or seek anybody’s approval other than your own.
Walking the path is not becoming like everybody else, it’s all about becoming you. What you fancy, some others might not, but it is none of their business anymore. It’s yours and yours only. To acknowledge that is stepping out of external programming and trusting your own, with the inspiration of others who have walked their path.
Thinking the path is the same for everybody would be a fatal point of view as goes for the internal events we all will encounter as we live through 2017.
A lot of mundane and spiritual veils came down in 2016 and that is just the mere beginning. So, you will need to focus more on you and your inner guidance in order to bring about the things you need on a metaphysical and mundane level for the next year, but very, very Consciously. Not reptilian brain driven, but driven by what your soul needs.
A side remark: You probably know some New Age people who claim that they are so zuperzpiritual, self-sacrificing and good hearted, but you really have a hard time seeing that in them, since they act very selfishly, sugar-coating it by bypassing other people’s needs. This is where spirituality and New Age could clash, since ‘spirituality’ becomes some kind of clothing they put on in order to get past what they really should be working on: The fear of looking themselves in the eye and becoming real. But that is not our problem – its theirs – just don’t get flabbergasted when you run into them. It’s most toxic…