How to Get Rid of a Mistress

Why betrayed Chinese wives pay big bucks to make their ‘other woman’ disappear

by Tracy Moore

Hell hath no fury like a woman who would like her husband to stop screwing around. Rising divorce rates, combined with continued financial inequality and stigma for divorced women, has led to a booming “mistress dispeller” business in China, where betrayed women allegedly pay up to $150,000 to make their dude walk the straight and narrow again, and the tactics used to dispel the mistress read more like covert ops from a lurid novel than a real-life practice. Best part? The wife uses her husband’s money to foot the bill.

Author Jiayang Fan interviewed one such mistress dispeller, Yu Ruojian, for a recent New Yorker profile on the trend, to shed light on the practice. In China, the mistresses are called “Little Thirds,” an identifier that can mean a fling or a long-term mistress, and the methods used to get them out of the picture are absolutely sinister. Fan writes:

Mistress dispellers use a variety of methods. Some Little Thirds can be paid off or discouraged by hearing unwelcome details of their lovers’ lives — debts, say, or responsibility for an elderly parent — or shamed with notes sent to friends and family. If the dispeller or the client is well connected, a Little Third may suddenly find that her job requires her to move to another city. A female dispeller sometimes seeks to become a confidante, in order to advise the targeted woman that the liaison will inevitably crumble. In certain cases, a male mistress dispeller may even seduce the woman. Like all the mistress dispellers I spoke to, Yu said that he never resorts to this tactic, but he acknowledged that there are those who do.

One of Ruojian’s anecdotes involved being hired by a woman whose husband had been cheating for years with a woman who ran a sex toy shop. When the wife discovered her husband had dropped some $30,000 on the mistress — and not their retirement — she’d had enough. She paid Ruojian to get rid of her. So he befriended the mistress, and he soon became chummy enough with her to convince her to take a trip to Shangai for sightseeing. While there, he managed to snap a few pictures of the two of them in friendly poses. Though he says nothing romantic had happened between them, the photos were incriminating-looking enough to spark a jealousy so intense in the husband she was cheating with, that he immediately dumped her returned to his grateful, loyal wife. It took about four months of work.

The company Ruojiang works for — the Weiqing Group — calls itself a “love hospital,” which has been around for 16 years and claims to save marriages at any cost. Its existence and success undermines the notion that such affairs are always tolerated and expected, which Fan attributes to a kind of perfect storm of social change. China’s divorce rate has now doubled, and adultery is the main reason (this is also the top reason for divorce in France, another country where an assumption of common infidelity is not entirely accurate.)

Since women in China still don’t fare as well in divorce as men, they’re more committed to staying in marriages than leaving them. Using a cheating husband’s money to get him back signals that even wives have their limits, and that no one here is above playing dirty to get what they want. (It is ironic that the only person in this story of infidelity who comes out looking innocent is the mistress.)

Weiqing Group’s tactics offer a satisfying resolution to our appetite for justice, underscoring our most deeply held notions about marriages, infidelity and revenge—and how they should play out in the court of public opinion. We hold the institution of marriage in the highest regard no matter the quality of that marriage. We view betrayed husbands as bad dogs simply in need of rehab. Betrayed wives are innocent saints; the other woman, a scourge who deserves every last karmic comeuppance headed her way.

The wives who pay to orchestrate these conclusions are effectively paying for the sort of outcome that would normally happen in a very public, high-profile affair—only in private. Bill and Hillary Clinton are still respectably together, for instance, but Monica Lewinsky’s life was satisfyingly destroyed, as she was ultimately forced to leave her work and home and move to England to escape the public wrath…

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https://melmagazine.com/how-to-get-rid-of-a-mistress-8a3e28c4d4

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How We Really Tamed the Dog

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SURVIVAL OF THE CUTEST: Three adorable domesticated fox pups sitting together in a field.Irena Pivovarova

A daring experiment builds a new tame species in just 60 years.

Suppose you wanted to build the perfect dog from scratch. What would be the key ingredients in the recipe? Loyalty and smarts would be musts. Cuteness would be as well, perhaps with gentle eyes, and a curly, bushy tail that wags in joy in anticipation of your appearance. And you might toss in a mutt-like mottled fur that seems to say, “I may not be beautiful, but you know that I love you and I need you.”

You needn’t bother trying. Lyudmila Trut and Dmitri Belyaev have already built it for you. The perfect dog. Except it’s not a dog, it’s a fox. A domesticated one. They built it quickly—mind-bogglingly fast for constructing a brand new biological creature. It took them less than 60 years, a blink of an eye compared to the time it took for wolves to become dogs. They built it in the often unbearable negative 40 degrees Fahrenheit cold of Siberia, where Lyudmila and, before her, Dmitri, have been running one of the longest, most incredible experiments on behavior and evolution ever devised.

Let us travel back to 1974. One clear, crisp spring morning, with the sun shining on the winter snow, Lyudmila moved into a little house on the edge of an experimental fox farm in Novosibirsk, Siberia, with an extraordinary little fox named Pushinka. Pushinka was a beautiful female with piercing black eyes, silver-tipped black fur, and a swatch of white running along her left cheek. She had recently passed her first birthday, and her tame behavior and dog-like ways of showing affection made her beloved by all at the fox farm. Lyudmila and her fellow scientist and mentor Dmitri Belyaev had decided that it was time to see whether Pushinka was so domesticated that she would be comfortable making the great leap to becoming truly domestic. Could this little fox actually live with people in a home?

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MAN’S BEST FRIEND: Lyudmila Trut with one of her beloved domesticated foxes.Vasily Kovaly

Dmitri Belyaev was a visionary scientist, a geneticist working in Russia’s vitally important commercial fur industry. Research in genetics was strictly prohibited at the time Belyaev began his career, and he had accepted his post in fur breeding because he could carry out studies under the cover of that work. Twenty-two years before Pushinka was born, he had launched an experiment that was unprecedented in the study of animal behavior. He began to breed tame foxes. He wanted to mimic the domestication of the wolf into the dog, with the silver fox, which is a close genetic cousin of the wolf, as a stand-in. If he could turn a fox into a dog-like animal, he might solve the long-standing riddle of how domestication comes about. Perhaps he would even discover important insights about human evolution; after all, we are, essentially, domesticated apes.

Fossils could provide clues about when and where the domestication of species had occurred, and a rough sense of the stages of change in the animals along the way. But they couldn’t explain how domestication got started in the first place. How had fierce wild animals, intensely averse to human contact, become docile enough for our human ancestors to have started breeding them? How had our own formidable wild ancestors started on the transition to being human? An experiment in real-time, to breed the wild out of an animal by mating the tamest among them, might provide the answers.

By far the most intense affection and loyalty forms between owners and dogs.

Belyaev’s plan for the experiment was audacious. The domestication of a species was thought to happen gradually, over thousands of years. How could he expect any significant results, even if the experiment ran for decades? And yet, here was a fox like Pushinka, who was so much like a dog that she came when her name was called and could be let out on the farm without a leash. She followed the workers around as they did their chores, and she loved going for walks with Lyudmila along the quiet country road that ran by the farm on the outskirts of Novosibirsk. And Pushinka was just one of the hundreds of affectionate foxes they had bred for tameness.

By moving into the house on the edge of the farm with Pushinka, Lyudmila was taking the fox experiment into unprecedented terrain. Their 15 years of genetic selection for tameness in their foxes had clearly paid off. Now, she and Belyaev wanted to discover whether by living with Lyudmila, Pushinka would develop the special bond with her that dogs have with their people. Except for house pets, most domesticated animals do not form close relationships with humans, and by far the most intense affection and loyalty forms between owners and dogs. What made the difference? Had that deep human-animal bond developed over a long time? Or might this affinity for people be a change that could emerge quickly, as with so many other changes Lyudmila and Belyaev had seen in the foxes already? Would living with a human come naturally to a fox that had been bred for tameness?…

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http://nautil.us/issue/50/emergence/how-we-really-tamed-the-dog

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Fractal: A Magnificent Supercell Thunderstorm Timelapse by Chad Cowanby Christopher

For the last decade, Kansas-based photographer Chad Cowan has driven almost 100,000 miles across the United States chasing powerful supercell thunderstorms and recording them in high definition. The endeavor began as a personal project to capture a few storms as they developed but quickly grew into a full-blown obsession. Cowan has recorded hundreds of storms and condensed the highlights into this short film titled Fractal with editing help from Kevin X Barth. He shares about the nature of thunderstorms:

The ingredient based explanation for supercell thunderstorms cites moisture, wind shear, instability and lift as the reasons for their formation. I prefer to focus on the big picture. Supercell thunderstorms are a manifestation of nature’s attempt to correct an extreme imbalance. The ever ongoing effort to reach equilibrium, or viscosity, is what drives all of our weather, and the force with which the atmosphere tries to correct this imbalance is proportional to the gradient. In other words, the more extreme the imbalance, the more extreme the storm.

http://www.thisiscolossal.com/2017/05/fractal-a-magnificent-supercell-thunderstorm-timelapse-by-chad-cowan/

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10 SECRETS ABOUT AMERICA THAT WILL MAKE YOU WONDER WHERE ALL THE FREEDOM WENT

by Isaac Davis, Staff Writer Waking Times

It’s no secret the definition of ‘freedom’ in America has changed a great deal in recent decades. While 9/11 was a major turning point, setting in motion a slew of changes to the American mindset and to the legal framework which governs the contract between the State and the people, our natural rights have been under assault for generations.

Couple this with the dumbing down of the American citizenry, and ‘We the People’ simply no longer know or understand our rights. The fallout of this being we no longer protest or even notice when evermore egregious violations occur.

Where has all the freedom gone?

The following 10 secret truths about America are critical in understanding the state of the state today.

1.) The United States is one of only two countries in the world which taxes nonresident citizens for income earned elsewhere. If you reside in another country, as millions of U.S. citizens do, you’ll have to pay income taxes to two nations, or face prosecution by the IRS.

This means that if you happen to have been born in the U.S. but lived your entire life elsewhere, you still owe Uncle Sam the full burden of income taxes, for your entire life. This rule is so insane that only two nations out of 196 nation states in the world do it. The other is the African nation of Eritrea.

2.) The Federal Reserve is not Federal and there is no reserve. The Federal Reserve Act of 1913 gave authority to a private organization to print currency. The result has been continually rising inflation and continually rising debt which is mathematically impossible to pay off.

A group of secret shareholders in the Federal Reserve make a profit for every dollar printed and used by anyone. This is the most sophisticated form of financial slavery ever devised, and many future generations of people are already indebted to this cabal.

3.) There is actually no law requiring U.S. citizens to file income tax returns, and the income tax itself is unconstitutional. This complex and controversial issue is broken down in detail in the documentary America: Freedom to Fascism by the late Aaron Russo.

4.) The IRS follows Americans around the world and harasses foreign banks to control the finances of U.S. citizens.  

The Foreign Account Tax Compliance Act of 2010 makes it extremely difficult for Americans to function financially in other countries. Originally part of the Patriot Act, this type of global financial surveillance monitors bank accounts and deposits around the world. A result of this has been that many international banks will no longer do business with U.S. citizens, making it extremely difficult to live abroad.

5.) American churches are required to register with the Federal government and are not allowed to engage in political speech. 

Historically, churches were the centers of communal and societal change, as pastors and leaders would speak to their congregations on matters of social injustice and government tyranny. The American Revolution would not have taken place if not for the churches, but in 1954 the federal government passed the ‘Law of Charities,’ requiring churches to files as 501(c)(3) organizations, which comes with heavy restrictions on freedom of speech. Churches today are sanitized profit centers of social complacency not social change.

6.) Free speech permits and free speech zones severely restrict our First Amendment rights.

This policy began in 1988 during the Democratic National Convention as ‘designated protest zones,’ but grew in prominence during the G.W. Bush administration. Upheld and strengthened during the Obama years, this policy of severely restricting freedom of speech and of assembly has been extended to college campuses around the nation. We won’t see antiwar protests like what we saw during the Vietnam war because this behavior is now illegal.

7.) Approximately two-thirds of Americans live in official Constitution Free Zones, where U.S. Customs and Border Protection has been given jurisdiction over the travel right of Americans. 

Within 100 miles of the U.S. border anyone can subjected to the policies of border patrol, which is allowed to interdict, search and seize persons and property without the due process required for other areas of law enforcement. Couple this with the rise in sobriety checkpoints and other police state measures and you realize we’ve lost the right to freely travel.

 

8.) Many ordinary and historically common rights, behaviors, practices and occupations have now become privileges regulated and taxed by the state.

Building a home, fishing, hunting, going off the grid, gardening, selling lemonade, mowing yards, driving a car, getting married, starting a business, cutting hair, and so, so much more are all activities that now require permission from the government. And for all of these activities, you’ll have to pay a fee for the privilege. Failure to do so can result in violent arrest, heavy fines, and prison time.

9.) Policing in the U.S. has become a for profit branch of the government, and police brutality and violence is reaching epidemic levels. 

Law enforcement agencies around the U.S. have seized billions of dollars from law-abiding citizens in recent years. Traffic enforcement and local code enforcement works to generate revenue for local governments rather than for public safety. And the violence of police against Americans is everywhere.

10.) America has the highest rate of incarcerated people the world has ever seen. 

Prison in the United States has become big business, and thanks to the war on drugs, the government has found it acceptable to imprison millions of Americans, breaking up families, destroying lives and wasting taxpayer money. Although America has only 4.4 percent of the world’s population, it houses about 22 percent of the world’s prisoners.

Final Thoughts

While America is truly filled with incredible, ingenious and productive people, we are living in a time when government is extended its reach into our lives in evermore serious ways, while going unchecked. In order to solve the problem, you have to see the problem, and as we look around, it’s easy to recognize that our freedom is being stolen from us.

About the Author

Isaac Davis is a staff writer for WakingTimes.com. He is an outspoken advocate of liberty, self-ownership, and of a voluntary society. He is an avid reader of history and passionate about becoming self-sufficient to break free of the control matrix.

This article (10 Secrets About America that Will Make You Wonder Where All the Freedom Went) was originally created and published by Waking Times and is published here under a Creative Commons license with attribution to Isaac Davis and WakingTimes.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this copyright statement.

http://www.wakingtimes.com/2017/07/13/10-secrets-america-will-make-wonder-freedom-went/

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