A Gentleman’s Guide to Breaking Up with Your Guy Friends

by John McDermott Last week, a listener of Dan Savage’s hit advice podcast Savage Love called in with a dilemma that will sound all-too-familiar for any post-collegiate American male: A guy makes a dude friend in college, and their relationships revolves primarily around partying, trying to meet women and making dick jokes together. (Note: The last bit is speculative.) But once they graduate and leave the carefree confines of a college campus, their lives diverge markedly. In this scenario, the caller got a job, an apartment and a serious girlfriend. In other words, he transitioned into life as an upstanding adult citizen. … Continue reading A Gentleman’s Guide to Breaking Up with Your Guy Friends


by Dylan Charles, EditorWaking Times Some great number of years back a maniacal psychiatrist wanted me to hop on the antidepressant bus. I asked him for how long I might need to be on the pills, to which he replied, “Forever.” You see, according to this esteemed professional I had a chemical imbalance that would require the ongoing supplementation of mass-produced chemicals into my body and brain. It was not my fault, he suggested, just bad luck in the procurement of serotonin, he supposed. Turns out he was dead wrong. And lucky for me, I was able to muster the courage to … Continue reading WHY AYAHUASCA IS SO EFFECTIVE AT TREATING DEPRESSION

Questioning the Time Being

Photo by Ahmad Ossayli | https://tricy.cl/2JCj2sf Dogen’s nuanced teaching on temporality is revisited in the book Being-Time. By Matthew Gindin Why should we care about how we understand time? In his essay The Time Being (Uji), Dogen Zenji (1200–1253), the revered founder of Japanese Soto Zen,  reconstructs our sense of time, providing a profound way of understanding it from the point of view of Zen practice. In the new book Being-Time, Shinshu Roberts, a dharma heir of the Berkeley Zen Center’s Sojun Mel Weitsman, invites the readers to grapple with Dogen’s famously rich and difficult text. “Even if we cannot completely understand Dogen’s teaching,” writes … Continue reading Questioning the Time Being

Everyday politics

Detail from The Departure Herald, unknown artist, Ming dynasty (1368-1644). Image courtesy Wikipedia Imperial Chinese conscription shows how ordinary people exercise influential political skills, even in a repressive state by Michael Szonyi is professor of Chinese history and director of the Fairbank Center for Chinese Studies at Harvard University. He is a social historian of late imperial and modern China. His latest books are (co-edited with Jennifer Rudolph) The China Questions: Critical Insights into a Rising Power (2018) and the The Art of Being Governed: Everyday Politics in Late Imperial China (2017). Published in association with Princeton University Press an Aeon Partner Edited by Sam Haselby It’s easy … Continue reading Everyday politics