LITERAL HUSTLE PORN IS BASED ON THE SAD REALITY THAT WE’RE ALL TOO BUSY OR TOO TIRED TO HAVE SEX

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There’s a good reason the ‘guy who’s too busy to fuck’ porn trope seems less popular than ever

by Andrew Fiouzi 

Whatever your porn watching habits may be, most of us are familiar with the genre of porn where the guy is “too busy” to fuck. Currently, the most popular one, according to Google’s “too busy to fuck” index, is actually a lesbian video, but the premise is the same: In it, one of the women appears to be busy writing notes for a potential presentation while her partner — stricken with horniness — is standing in the doorway rubbing her clit with a telephone cord. As the video continues, the woman with the telephone cord moves into the bedroom and begins to seduce her astutely-focused-on-charts partner. It is, quite literallyhustle porn.  

For those who’ve somehow mercifully avoided it thus far, the term “hustle porn” (formally coined by Reddit founder Alexis Ohanian, according to Inc. magazine) is “the fetishization of people — particularly entrepreneurs or employees in the tech industry — overworking themselves.” Nowadays, hustle porn, being the metastasizing cancer of late-stage-capitalism culture that it is, extends to nearly every walk of life — and similar to most cultural trends, the porn industry was there first. 

The plot of these literal hustle porn videos is fairly basic: Husband is constantly working, i.e., too busy to please his wife, so she either has to aggressively seduce him, or finds a guy — typically her neighbor, handyman, etc. — to do what her husband never seems to have time for. The underlying plotline of both is based on the sexist but somewhat common claim that husbands are too busy making Powerpoints to sex it up with their wives. 

While that may seem like an extension of reality for some, the truth is that, as per myriad Reddit posts, both men and women are experiencing a dearth in horniness caused by the crushing weight of hustling to make ends meet, rearing kids or both. “My job now has me working 50-60 hours every week and I hate the job,” writes one redditor. “She doesn’t work so I support us both. She’s sick a lot too so I take care of her when I get home. Even on my days off I feel too tired to have sex. I’ll masturbate a couple times a week in the bathroom (sometimes multiple times a day), but just the thought of physically having sex makes me way too tired to even try.”

Another writes that she and her fiancée probably have sex twice a month. “I know my fiancé isn’t happy with this,” she writes. “He’d probably like once or twice a week, maybe more. I used to like it pretty often too, but I’m just tired and disinterested. I’m always thinking about grocery lists or PCR or something. After our dates, my fiancé always tries to set the mood and stuff, but I’m dense as a brick and don’t notice any of that. I just wanna sleep.”

The internet, naturally, is flooded with articles about being too tired for sex. “When life gets busy and tiring, our sex lives are often the first casualty,” reports Good Housekeeping. Over at ABC Life’s Dear Tanya column, one woman wrote in, explaining how she’s always too tired or busy for sex, saying, “It’s the last thing I feel like doing when I get the tap on the shoulder from my partner. How can I make it more of a priority?”

Lanae St. John, aka The MamaSutra, a board-certified sexologist with the American College of Sexologists, tells me that the “too busy for sex” trope could actually be based on a host of other truths as well: “Ranging from finding sex dull or a waste of time, to not really enjoying the sex with this partner, or they don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings, to [the fact] they’re getting their needs met elsewhere, or any other personal reason,” she says. “We’ll really never know unless the relationship is a safe container for both people and where the person making up the excuse feels secure enough to share those uncomfortable truths and be honest.”

To be fair, though, as per the same article in Good Housekeeping, “a National Sleep Foundation survey (2010) found that nearly 25 percent of cohabiting respondents report often being too tired to have sex with their partner.” Which is to say that being too busy or tired for sex is a problem plaguing at least a quarter of all couples, at least half of whom would rather get some much-needed sleep than boink…

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https://melmagazine.com/en-us/story/literal-hustle-porn-is-based-on-the-sad-reality-that-were-all-too-busy-or-too-tired-to-have-sex

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