Emptiness and Filling Out Forms: A Practical Approach to Death

Photo by (Kirk) Lai Man Nung | https://tricy.cl/2GfksZT Dying with compassion means having a plan in place for those left behind. A practitioner recounts how she navigated the process with her dharma friends. By Rena Graham As a Tibetan Buddhist practitioner, I am constantly reminded that we never know when death might approach, but for years, I’d avoided dealing with one of the most practical aspects of death—the paperwork. I was not alone: Roughly half of all adults in North America do not have a living will. Then recently, I suffered a near-fatal illness that left me viscerally aware of how unprepared … Continue reading Emptiness and Filling Out Forms: A Practical Approach to Death

What does it mean to be a man? – Gary Barker

Male stereotypes are under increasing scrutiny. Psychologist Gary Barker explains why they are harmful, and what a progressive form of masculinity could look like. By Helen Glenny In the past few years, traditional male stereotypes have come under increasing scrutiny. These stereotypes often come under the term ‘Toxic masculinity’, which has been widely used to explain certain male actions and characteristics that conform to established gender roles, which do harm to both themselves or the society that they live in. Gary Barker has a PhD in developmental psychology and studies how we raise and socialise boys and men. In the late … Continue reading What does it mean to be a man? – Gary Barker

One Personality Trait Is Key to Whether or Not You Should Own a Dog

By Paul McGreevy An animal behaviorist explains the science behind a “dogpersonship.” Filed Under Animals, Data & Human Behavior The news of a fatal dog-bite incident in Melbourne last week has shocked dog lovers around the country. A 61-year-old man was dead by the time police arrived at the property in Mill Park; his 58-year-old wife is in the hospital with serious injuries. The dog in question, a Staffordshire terrier, belonged to the couple’s son. At first glance, the dog seems almost to have led a “double life” — strongly vouched for as a deeply loyal animal who would defend its family members and protect familiar … Continue reading One Personality Trait Is Key to Whether or Not You Should Own a Dog

THE LONELINESS EPIDEMIC IS SO BAD, WORLD LEADERS HAVE BEEN FORCED TO INTERVENE

by Chris Bourn When politicians are staging national interventions to force us to connect with each other — and actually spending real money on the problem — you know it’s a genuine crisis There are many great things about being a human, but one of the most underappreciated is our need to bond with other humans. The urge to be sociable was hardwired into us long ago, say theevolutionary psychologists, and it’s led to many of our favorite pastimes: laughing at things, gossip, the ability to have face-to-face sex. But it also has a nasty side effect: When the bonding instinct is left hanging … Continue reading THE LONELINESS EPIDEMIC IS SO BAD, WORLD LEADERS HAVE BEEN FORCED TO INTERVENE

10 Things Not to Do with Narcissists

Source: Prazis Images/Shutterstock by Dan Neuharth Ph.D., MFT Avoid common pitfalls when dealing with the self-absorbed. Narcissists follow different norms than most people. Once you recognize these norms and understand what lies beneath them, you can cope with narcissistic people more successfully. Here are 10 “Don’ts” for dealing with narcissists: 1. Don’t give them ammunition. Narcissists need to feel superior. Anything you share with narcissists may eventually be used to humiliate or manipulate you, particularly when you are most vulnerable or in need. Be mindful about what you reveal. 2. Don’t take them at face value. Image is everything to narcissists. Narcissists lie easily and often … Continue reading 10 Things Not to Do with Narcissists

What Alfred Binet and Maria Montessori Can Teach Us about Intelligence

Alfred Binet and Maria Montessori. Credit: Left: Getty Images. Right: Getty Images. They found ways to develop human intellect, including in students thought to have limited prospects By Rishi Sriram In France in the 1860s, a teenage boy took the exam required for receiving his high school diploma. On one question, instead of providing the name of a Greek philosopher, he mistakenly offered the name of a character in a book he’d read. When his teacher heard his response, she was outraged. She told him he would never have what she called a “philosophical mind.” The word “never” stuck with him. Decades later, … Continue reading What Alfred Binet and Maria Montessori Can Teach Us about Intelligence

There’s a New Hidden Danger to Drinking Alcohol — and It Could Be Deadly

Carlos Estrada by Chelsea Szmania The news about the tragic deaths of several American tourists in the Dominican Republic in May 2019 has created an outcry and a media frenzy. As of June 30, there were at least nine deaths with similar circumstances in the past few months. The FBI and Dominican authorities are investigating, and one theory is that alcohol was the cause of these deaths. The FBI has reportedly taken samples of alcohol for testing, and the hotels where some tourists died have removed alcohol from the minibars in the hotel rooms. But the concerns are growing, and Sen. Chuck Schumer (D-NY) on June 30, 2019, recommended that the Bureau of Alcohol, … Continue reading There’s a New Hidden Danger to Drinking Alcohol — and It Could Be Deadly