Why Your Brain Hates Other People

ILLUSTRATION BY IGNACIO SERRANO And how to make it think differently. BY ROBERT SAPOLSKY As a kid, I saw the 1968 version of Planet of the Apes. As a future primatologist, I was mesmerized. Years later I discovered an anecdote about its filming: At lunchtime, the people playing chimps and those playing gorillas ate in separate groups. It’s been said, “There are two kinds of people in the world: those who divide the world into two kinds of people and those who don’t.” In reality, there’s lots more of the former. And it can be vastly consequential when people are divided … Continue reading Why Your Brain Hates Other People

IN THE CULTURE OF HUNGRY GHOSTS

by Dylan Charles, Editor Waking Times “No society can understand itself without looking at its shadow side.” ― Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction Something wicked bubbles just beneath the surface of the collective conscience. Our society is rife with corruption, predation, perversion, over-consumption, violence, addiction and so much more. Somehow enough is never enough, as if the driving force behind human existence is pure want. This is not true, though, for we know that spiritually well beings are content beings, looking no further than the present moment’s blessings for satisfaction. We don’t have an inherent need for want. Want … Continue reading IN THE CULTURE OF HUNGRY GHOSTS

Parents Shouldn’t Spy on Their Kids

Apps that make it easy to invade kids’ privacy are a recipe for arrested development. BY KIRSTEN WEIR For the past two years, Mandie Snyder, an accountant near Spokane, Washington, has been “monitoring” her daughter. With a handy tech tool known as mSpy, Snyder is able to review her 13-year-old’s text messages, photos, videos, app downloads, and browser history. She makes no apologies for it. Last summer, she says, she was able to intervene when she discovered her daughter was texting her boyfriend to plan a sexual rendezvous. “I know my daughter isn’t as naïve as I was at her … Continue reading Parents Shouldn’t Spy on Their Kids

You Are Already Here

Photo by Roman Kraft | https://tricy.cl/2AOljN2 Life is very difficult to understand through ideas alone, wrote Dainin Katagiri, the late abbot of the Minnesota Zen Center. But there is one thing that you can trust in: you are fully alive right now. By Dainin Katagiri Roshi In daily human life we are always encountering some problem, contradiction, or confusion. So very naturally we want to escape from problems and find a better way of living. Seeking a calm mind, we study philosophy, psychology, religion, even physics and mathematics, believing they can show us who we are and what the meaning of … Continue reading You Are Already Here

A Lesbian’s Guide to Making Sure You’re Doing Oral Sex Right

by merritt k Listen up y’all, because your good pal merritt is about to reveal another secret of lesbian sexual charisma. This time: oral. Giving head. Eating pussy. Cunnilingus. Whatever you call it, it’s too often done poorly, for the wrong reasons, or not at all. Let’s see what we can do about that. First, for the love of God, don’t make going down on a woman into a macho thing or some kind of bizarre gesture about “making it up to her.” More than any technique I can impart, this is key. I repeat, DO NOT make oral sex … Continue reading A Lesbian’s Guide to Making Sure You’re Doing Oral Sex Right

ANOTHER FACEBOOK EXECUTIVE ISSUES WARNING ABOUT ITS DISASTROUS EFFECT ON PSYCHOLOGY AND SOCIETY

byVic Bishop, Staff Writer Waking Times “I think we have created tools that are ripping apart the social fabric of how society works.” ~Chamath Palihapitiya In a recent talk with the Stanford Graduate School of Business, former vice-president of user growth for Facebook, Chamath Palihapitiya, made some rather startling comments about the impact Facebook and social media are having on human culture.  He acknowledged feeling ‘tremendous guilt’ about his involvement with Facebook, citing the fact that the technology is so widely used that it is actually affecting how human beings interact with one another, upending our entire cultural history of communication. When asked what ‘soul-searching’ … Continue reading ANOTHER FACEBOOK EXECUTIVE ISSUES WARNING ABOUT ITS DISASTROUS EFFECT ON PSYCHOLOGY AND SOCIETY

The App That Reminds You You’re Going to Die

It helped me find inner peace. by BIANCA BOSKER Five times a day for the past three months, an app called WeCroak has been telling me I’m going to die. It does not mince words. It surprises me at unpredictable intervals, always with the same blunt message: “Don’t forget, you’re going to die.” Sending these notices is WeCroak’s sole function. They arrive “at random times and at any moment just like death,” according to the app’s website, and are accompanied by a quote meant to encourage “contemplation, conscious breathing or meditation.” Though the quotes are not intended to induce nausea and despair, this … Continue reading The App That Reminds You You’re Going to Die