Signs You’ve Fallen Out Of Love

BY JERRICA TISDALE Falling in love can be one of the most magical times in an individual or couple’s life. It’s filled with excitement and hope. You’re excited because you’ve found someone who makes you happy and loves you as much as you love them. The future together seems bright and full of many possibilities. Because you’re in love, days are an endless playground of wonder and delight. Unfortunately, however, love doesn’t always last. Falling out of love can be one of the most heartbreaking times in a person’s life. It can be devastating and life changing, particularly for women. “It may … Continue reading Signs You’ve Fallen Out Of Love

The case of Norman Douglas

He was a literary lion and an infamous pederast: what might we learn from his life about monstrosity and humanity? Rachel Hope Cleves is a historian and professor at the University of Victoria, British Columbia. She is the author of The Reign of Terror in America: Visions of Violence from Anti-Jacobinism to Antislavery (2009), Charity and Sylvia: A Same-Sex Marriage in Early America (2014) and Unspeakable: A Life Beyond Sexual Morality (2020). Her current project is titled ‘A Historian’s Guide to Food and Sex’.  Edited by Sam Haselby The British writer Norman Douglas was so famous during his lifetime (1868-1952) that he frequently turned up as a … Continue reading The case of Norman Douglas

I’m a Sexologist, and Here’s Why It’s Just a Myth That Longer Sex Equals Better Sex

by Mary Grace Garis Sexual stamina is something that’s long been held in high regard—after all, nobody writes R&B songs about making love for the duration of the Parks and Recreation theme song. With that in mind, the goal of sex is, apparently, doing it all night long. But for many vulva-owners, the constant in-out, in-out of vaginally penetrative sex can be tedious or even painful. So, how long should sex be, ideally? The short answer is that according to sexperts, it depends. “The exact length of sex play is really up to you,” says Donna Oriowo, PhD, a sex therapist in SimplePractice‘s network. “Are … Continue reading I’m a Sexologist, and Here’s Why It’s Just a Myth That Longer Sex Equals Better Sex

‘Revolutionary’ photo book of lesbians reissued for the first time since 1979

“Lesbian women were so invisible, even to one other, depending on where you lived,” said Lisa Vogel, 64, who appears in two photographs in the book. By Julius Constantine Motal Where there was absence, Joan E. Biren saw potential. As a lesbian and photographer in the early 1970s, Biren, who goes by JEB, said she was dismayed at the dearth of images that truly reflected her life and the lives of so many in the lesbian community. So, around 1970, she borrowed a camera from a friend and simply held it out at arm’s length as she and her lover at … Continue reading ‘Revolutionary’ photo book of lesbians reissued for the first time since 1979

Study: Does the label “straight” worsen perceptions of gay people?

A new study explores how using positive labels to describe a majority group may negative impact perceptions of minority groups. by Stephen Johnson  In a recent study published in The Journal of Sex Research, heterosexual people were asked to rate their impressions of fictitious men. Some of the fictitious men were described as “heterosexual,” the others as “straight.” Across multiple studies, participants reported worse impressions of gay men after being exposed to the word “straight,” but only if the participants were highly religious. It’s no surprise that using negative language to refer to a minority group can produce negative effects … Continue reading Study: Does the label “straight” worsen perceptions of gay people?

‘THE TRAGEDY OF HETEROSEXUALITY’ IS AN ESSENTIAL PLAYBOOK FOR STRAIGHT MEN

by C. Brian Smith  Jane Ward’s book is a vital read for anyone who wants to have genuinely good sex. What if men who profess to love women started by actually liking them? The fourth chapter of Jane Ward’s new book, The Tragedy of Heterosexuality, imagines a dinner party with 60 of Ward’s queer friends and colleagues. They’re in the middle of a critical discussion about straight culture and the boredom, obliviousness and bad sex they associate with it. Also discussed are oppressive straight rituals like bridal showers and parties announcing the shape of an unknown baby’s genitals. Mostly, though, Ward and her … Continue reading ‘THE TRAGEDY OF HETEROSEXUALITY’ IS AN ESSENTIAL PLAYBOOK FOR STRAIGHT MEN

ANYTIME, ANYWHERE: THE GROWING APPEAL OF THE FREE-USE FETISH

by Isabelle Kohn In a free-use fantasy, partners can have sex with each other whenever they want, no holds barred. But in reality, freedom is anything but free. On a cloudy Wisconsin morning in early February, 27-year-old Vixen woke up the same way she does most mornings — with her roommate’s dick pressing against her slumbering mouth. Groggy and barely conscious, the bespectacled brunette stretched her jaw to let it all the way in, rubbing the sleep out of her eyes as she came online. A wake-up blowjob might not be everyone’s preferred morning alarm, but Vixen loves it. She and her affably … Continue reading ANYTIME, ANYWHERE: THE GROWING APPEAL OF THE FREE-USE FETISH

WHY THIS SMALL COUNTRY HAS A PENIS ON EVERY ROOF

by C. Brian Smith  Walk just about anywhere in Bhutan — the small South Asian country wedged between China and India on the edge of the Himalayas — and you’ll likely find large, ejaculating penises with hairy balls. They’re painted on the exterior walls of buildings, perched on the roofs of houses and fixed in front of doors to ward off bad luck.  The phallus is meant to demonstrate the virility of Bhutanese men and keep malicious gossip at bay, explains Sonam Dorji, a tour guide and senior reporter with News of Bhutan. “We believe phalluses dispel evil spirits,” he tells me, explaining Bhutanese people … Continue reading WHY THIS SMALL COUNTRY HAS A PENIS ON EVERY ROOF

Is it time to decriminalize prostitution? Two New York bills answer yes in unique ways

One bill hopes to repeal the crime of selling sex and expand social services; the other would legalize the entire sex trade. by KEVIN DICKINSON Today in the majority of the United States, it is a crime to sell sex, buy it, or promote its sale.The Sex Trade Survivors Justice & Equality Act would decriminalize prostitution in New York state while maintaining punitive measures against buyers and pimps.Opponents suggest this law would only push the illegal sex trade further underground and seek full decriminalization for everyone involved. Although incorrectly labeled the world’s oldest profession, prostitution has been on the minds of … Continue reading Is it time to decriminalize prostitution? Two New York bills answer yes in unique ways

The Buddha Didn’t Teach Consent

But can early Buddhism help us develop a better sexual ethics anyway? By Amy Paris Langenberg Buddhism has a sexual ethics problem. In 2018, the Dalai Lama admitted as much when he said on Dutch public TV that he had been told of sexual violations occurring in Tibetan Buddhist communities as long ago as the early 1990s. His admission was the result of a petition by a group of abuse survivors in the Netherlands. Their efforts are part of a larger trend of students speaking out publicly about their experiences. While international Buddhist groups are beginning to respond seriously to the problem of … Continue reading The Buddha Didn’t Teach Consent