Many trans people resort to black market hormones and surgeries when they can’t find gender-affirming health care. BY TARA SANTORA FOR THE FIRST 10 months of Christine’s gender transition, a progressive LGBT health clinic in Boston made getting on hormones easy. But after a year or so on estrogen and a testosterone-blocker, she found herself in financial trouble. She had just recently moved to the city, where she was unable to find a job, and her savings were starting to wear thin. Finding employment as a transgender person, she says, was overwhelmingly difficult: “I was turned down for more jobs than I … Continue reading Ignored by Doctors, Transgender People Turn to DIY Treatments
Hey, penises come in all shapes and sizes. by Spencer Althouse We asked the BuzzFeed Community to open up about their sexual experiences with someone who has a micropenis. Here are the results. In case you’re wondering, the average erect penis is 5 inches long, while a micropenis is at least 2.5 standard deviations smaller (so, smaller than 7 centimeters or 2.75 inches). Also, about .6% of the male population has a micropenis. Before we dive into the stories, we spoke to Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and certified sex addiction therapist, to get a better understanding of how a micropenis might impact sex. Here’s what she … Continue reading 15 Hookup Stories From People Who’ve Had Sex With A Micropenis
BY BETH ELLWOOD New research suggests that men’s tendency to overestimate women’s sexual interest is more than just an evolutionary adaptation. The study found that differences in sociosexual orientation and the tendency to project one’s interest onto others completely explained sex differences in the misperception of partner’s interest. The study was published in Psychological Science. Previous research has consistently found that when it comes to gauging a partner’s sexual interest, men and women display different biases. Men tend to overestimate women’s sexual interest, while women underestimate men’s sexual interest. Some researchers have speculated that these differences have evolved to serve the mating … Continue reading Study offers new psychological explanation for men’s tendency to overestimate women’s romantic interest
Apocalypse porn and world-ending sex fantasies have a decades-long history that illuminates how we cope with desire in crisis. By Samantha Cole In the middle of a months-long global pandemic, economic collapse, climate calamity, and civil unrest unlike anything we’ve seen in a lifetime, the world—or at least the world as we knew it—feels a little like it’s coming to an end. And people say they’re horny for it. Like giggling at a funeral, getting boned up during the apocalypse feels taboo but ultimately, uncontrollable. Much has been written about how the COVID-19 lockdown has fucked with our sex lives: under forced … Continue reading Apocalypse Porn Shows Why People Are Horny for the End of the World
By Mary Anne Cohen, LCSW What is the connection between sexual abuse and developing an eating disorder? Why does bingeing, purging, starving and chronic dieting become a “solution” for the abuse? Abuse shatters the sacred innocence of a child and often becomes a primary trigger for an eating disorder. The survivor of sexual abuse becomes plagued with confusion, guilt, shame, fear, anxiety, self-punishment, and rage. She (or he) seeks the soothing comfort, protection, and anesthesia that food offers. Food, after all, is the most available, legal, socially sanctioned, cheapest mood altering drug on the market! And emotional eating is a mood altering … Continue reading Sexual Abuse and Eating Disorders: What’s the Connection?
by Alice Broster It’s more than likely that the sex education you received while you were growing up shaped you in some way. Whether you had a full lecture on the ins-and-outs of orgasms or nothing at all, it can affect the way you see your body and sex. There are so many sex-positive educators in 2020 shining a light on the importance of pleasure and understanding your body. So, it feels slightly bizarre that female pleasure is still a bit of a taboo. Especially considering that the health benefits of female masturbation are pretty extensive. Everyone deserves a fulfilling … Continue reading What Are The Health Benefits Of Female Masturbation?
by Ellen Scott Ever feel anxious around the prospect of having sex, even with someone you love (or just fancy a lot) and whose clothes you want to rip off? It’s a common thing, but that doesn’t make it any less frustrating. Anxiety around having sex can pop up in all sorts of ways and for all sorts of reasons. You might have performance anxiety, whether you’re worried about coming ‘too soon’ or not at all. You could find that general anxiety stops you from getting in the moment. Perhaps you’re not totally secure in the way your body looks … Continue reading If anxiety is wrecking your sex life, here’s what to do
by Elizabeth Yuko Ah, the vagina: the hardworking, life-giving, often misidentified and misunderstood body part. While we may be getting more comfortable with actually saying the word — which is a step in the right direction — we still have a long way to go before most of the population actually knows what goes on down there. To help you along, here are a few quick vag facts to help you impress your friends. The vagina may not be where you think it isSure, you know the general vaginal vicinity, but contrary to popular belief, the vagina isn’t the entire … Continue reading What Should Vaginas Smell Like? And Other Vag Facts You Need to Know Now
by Almara Abgarian The pandemic has seen most people, barring couples who are in the same household, deprived of any sexual contact. Therefore, last week’s introduction by the government of so-called support (read: sex) bubbles was definitely welcome. Quick recap: support bubbles allow for two households to come together as one, with the caveat that one of these households has an adult who lives alone. This means that that you can’t form a bubble with a household if both of them have several people living in the home. This undoubtedly throws a wrench in sex plans for many singletons, especially … Continue reading What happens if you don’t have sex for a long time?
Evolutionary psychology can explain why dark triad traits get passed on. by SARAH SLOAT In the viral 2014 YouTube video “Hot Crazy Matrix” a bespeckled man named Dana McClendon explains that the matrix explains “everything a young man needs to know about women.” He breaks women down into seven zones, ranging from the No Go Zone (women who are unattractive and crazy) to the Wife Zone (women who are very attractive but only a little crazy). It’s sexist and transphobic; a riff on the “Hot/Crazy scale” from How I Met Your Mother. McClendon has described it as a “harmless joke” and says he didn’t mean to become a “caricature for misogyny.” … Continue reading “HOT CRAZY MATRIX” STUDY EXPLAINS OUR PERPLEXING DATING CHOICES