Orgasm gap: The insidious reason women have fewer orgasms than men

It’s the clitoris, stupid! KEY TAKEAWAYS Heterosexual men have far more orgasms during partnered sex than heterosexual women, resulting in a significant pleasure disparity.  New research suggests that the explanation for the gap is simple: Men don’t take the time to stimulate women’s clitorises. The clitoris is the primary anatomical source of female sexual pleasure.  The reasons for this inattention are more complicated. It seems that cultural norms around gender place the focus on men’s pleasure and vaginal sex while downplaying women’s desire for their own pleasure. by Ross Pomeroy There exists a significant “orgasm gap” between heterosexual women and … Continue reading Orgasm gap: The insidious reason women have fewer orgasms than men

Is watching pornography bad for men — but good for women?

A large study links pornography use to decreased sexual performance for men and increased sexual performance for women. KEY TAKEAWAYS A recent study reported that increasing porn use is linked to decreased sexual performance in men and increased sexual performance in women.  The diverging effects could be because men tend to watch a lot more porn than women and often view more unrealistic hardcore and fetish-focused porn.  It’s overly simplistic to say that porn is bad for men or good for women. Like almost everything, porn is probably best consumed in moderation. by Ross Pomeroy Pornography is a male-dominated industry … Continue reading Is watching pornography bad for men — but good for women?

8 Things That Can Happen If You Stop Having Sex

When you stop having sex, you may notice physical, mental and emotional changes in your body, but you may not be the only one affected. A sexual pause can also take a toll on your partner, writes Dr Saransh Jain. The hormones released during sexual activity play an important role in lifting your mood, and making you happy. PROF (DR) SARANSH JAIN Sex may permeate our popular culture, but conversations about it are still associated with stigma and shame in Indian households. As a result, most individuals dealing with sexual health issues or trying to find information about sex often … Continue reading 8 Things That Can Happen If You Stop Having Sex

Sex and Gender Fluidity in Tibetan Buddhism

A Tibetan scholar’s dream uniquely presents sex changes without judgement—neither as as biological fact nor pedagogical tool, but as an expression of intimacy with another person. By Alexander Gardner The Sources of Buddhist Traditions is a monthly column from three of the major digital resources for Buddhist research, texts, and translation: Buddhist Digital Resource Center, The Treasury of Lives, and 84000: Translating the Words of the Buddha. Focusing on stories, texts, translation, and teachers, the series will illuminate aspects of Buddhist practice, thought, and tradition. Buddhists have been switching genders for hundreds of years, either temporarily, permanently, or in dreams and visions. They do … Continue reading Sex and Gender Fluidity in Tibetan Buddhism

Slow sex, long life

Tokyo’s imperial archives advise what science now confirms: the secret of longevity lies in the gentle arts of the bedroom Denis Noble is emeritus professor of cardiovascular physiology at the University of Oxford. He was the first to develop computer models of the heart, published in Nature in 1960, and is one of the founders of the field of systems biology. His books include The Music of Life (2006) and Dance to the Tune of Life (2016). Edited by Pam Weintraub For more than 1,000 years, the Imperial Family of Japan and its physicians have preserved a treasure of oriental medicine: the complete 30 scrolls of the Ishinhō, or … Continue reading Slow sex, long life

Research confirms men with older brothers are more likely to be gay

Men with one older brother are 12% more likely to enter a same-sex union than those with a sister. Jan Kabatek and Christine Ablaza and Francisco Perales New research shows having a greater number of older brothers increases the probability of a person entering a same-sex union at some point in their lives. This finding, detailed in our paper published today in the Journal of Sex Research, offers a rare insight into the origins of sexual orientation. The origins of sexual orientation In recent decades, many countries have achieved remarkable progress towards equal treatment of LGBTIQ+ people, including greater public support and more protective legislation. But despite these … Continue reading Research confirms men with older brothers are more likely to be gay

Taboos: Why are we repulsed yet seduced by the forbidden and unspeakable?

According to Sigmund Freud, our revulsion at taboos is an attempt to suppress a part of us that actually wants to do them. KEY TAKEAWAYS Taboos are those forbidden and repulsive things we call illegal, immoral, or disgusting.  According to Sigmund Freud, our revulsion at taboos is an attempt to suppress a part of us that actually wants to do them.  Freud might actually have been right: Our private Google searches and internet personas reveal a darker side to our psyche.  by Jonny Thomson There are things you will never talk of; perverted, grotesque, and macabre thoughts that stay tightly … Continue reading Taboos: Why are we repulsed yet seduced by the forbidden and unspeakable?

Idealising the predator

How did certain French intellectuals get away with preying upon young girls, shamelessly, in public and over decades? Lily Dunn is a British writer of fiction and nonfiction. She is the author of the novel Shadowing the Sun (2008), and her essays have appeared in Granta. Her debut nonfiction, Sins of My Father: A Daughter, a Cult, a Wild Unravelling, is forthcoming in 2022. She is co-editor, with Zoe Gilbert, of A Wild and Precious Life: A Recovery Anthology (2020). She lives in the UK. In January 2020, Le consentement (Consent) by Vanessa Springora was published, a memoir exposé of Gabriel Matzneff, a well-known and much-respected French writer, … Continue reading Idealising the predator

Music and sex

A song can take you on a journey of ecstatic arousal. Is music imitating sex, inviting it, or something else altogether? Michael Spitzer is professor of music at the University of Liverpool in the UK. His books include A History of Emotion in Western Music: A Thousand Years from Chant to Pop (2020) and The Musical Human: A History of Life on Earth (2021). Edited bySam Dresser And then she repeats the cycle all over again, dropping back down and rising to a climax twice more, each wave higher and more confident than the one before. The second verse is more intense because the … Continue reading Music and sex

Porn and the sexual imagination

Cultivating your sexual garden with porn by Carol Hay, Associate Professor of Philosophy at the University of Massachusetts Lowell and author of Think Like a Feminist: The Philosophy Behind the Revolution. Porn holds a mirror up to society. Most mainstream porn – the free stuff – is misogynistic and demonstrates a casual loathing of women. The personalized market algorithm that advertises you a new kettle the moment you half-mention to a friend you might need a new kettle, is also mining your search history, location, and other data to bring you the porn it thinks you want – and often in our … Continue reading Porn and the sexual imagination