Love your frenemy

The Rivals (1876) by Charles Edward Perugini. Photo by Getty Images Envy is the dark side of love, but love is the luminous side of envy. Is there a way to harness envy wisely, for growth? by Sara Protasi is assistant professor of philosophy at University of Puget Sound in Washington state. Her work has been published in Philosophical Psychology, European Journal of Philosophy, and Notre Dame Philosophical Reviews, among others. Edited by Pam Weintraub My best friend in high school was tall, lean and pretty. She had a long neck and luscious dark hair, alabaster skin punctuated by a constellation of beauty marks, and a teeth … Continue reading Love your frenemy

The Problem With Happy Endings

Charlie Chaplin and Paulette Goddard, walking into the future in the 1936 film ‘Modern Times.’ GEORGE RINHART / GETTY From tidy stories of reunited migrant families to #PlaneBae, Americans’ bias toward optimism is a wonderful thing—until it’s not. by MEGAN GARBER Late last week, as the world’s attention was tugged in the typical directions, a 6-year-old girl named Alison Jimena Valencia Madrid was reunited with her mother, Cindy. The two, who had fled El Salvador earlier in the summer, had been separated more than a month before, at the U.S.–Mexico border, in fulfillment of the Trump administration’s policy of breaking up … Continue reading The Problem With Happy Endings


by Christina Sarich, Staff Writer Waking Times  The modern-day shaman has evolved from one of the oldest known spiritual practices of humankind. Shamans go back at least 100,000 years. It is prevalent in Northeast Asiana and Arctic cultures, but spread around the world, and is perhaps most familiar to the average person today in the form of South American shamanism and the use of Ayahuasca which uses plant medicine to aid the shamanic journey. Utilizing a potent psychedelic present in the plant compounds called N,N-Dimethyltryptamine or DMT, an individual seems to be able to access layers of his subtle body and etheric consciousness which allows profound … Continue reading IGNITE INNER GUIDANCE THROUGH SHAMANIC JOURNEYING

A bad marriage can seriously damage your health, say scientists

image edited by Fernando Kaskais  An unhappy couple, doing their health no favours Photograph: irinamunteanu/Getty Images/RooM RF Psychologists monitored 373 couples over 16 years and found that couples who disagree often have poorer health – especially for men by Layal Liverpool A bad marriage with frequent conflicts could have a serious detrimental impact on your health, according to psychologists. The researchers at the universities of Nevada and Michigan monitored 373 heterosexual couples to investigate whether disagreeing about multiple topics – such as children, money, in-laws and leisure activities – had negative health implications. “We followed married couples over the first … Continue reading A bad marriage can seriously damage your health, say scientists

What’s The Deal With Pussy Slapping?

by Tracy Moore Porn has indisputably given large portions of the population new sex things to try and enjoy, like shaving their crotches, doing anal and taking jizz shots to the face. But occasionally there are still those lingering sex acts that don’t seem to go completely mainstream, if only because people aren’t quite sure it’s real or if it’s just a porn thing. One of those things seems to be pussy slapping. Pussy slapping, also called cunt spanking, clit slapping, clit smacking, vagina slapping, and clit tapping, is pretty much what it sounds like. Though one might get the … Continue reading What’s The Deal With Pussy Slapping?

Oliver Sacks on Nature’s Beauty as a Gateway into Deep Time and a Lens on the Interconnectedness of the Universe

Oliver Sacks at the New York Botanical Garden. (Photograph by Bill Hayes, Dr. Sacks’s partner, from How New York Breaks Your Heart.) “The sense of deep time brings a deep peace with it, a detachment from the timescale, the urgencies, of daily life… a profound sense of being at home, a sort of companionship with the earth.” BY MARIA POPOVA “When we have learned how to listen to trees,” Hermann Hesse wrote in contemplating what our arboreal companions can teach us about belonging and life, “then the brevity and the quickness and the childlike hastiness of our thoughts achieve an incomparable joy.” Nearly a … Continue reading Oliver Sacks on Nature’s Beauty as a Gateway into Deep Time and a Lens on the Interconnectedness of the Universe


Posted by Soren Dreier Author: Psychology It usually starts out as a logical tactic. We gain others’ approval, make them happy for a moment, and feel pretty good about ourselves. It seems like the perfect path to take—and it’s one we can continue on for many years, believing it’s reducing our anxiety about disapproval in our daily lives. In actuality, it can work pretty well in getting people to like us. We avoid having them disapprove of our actions, and we get to enjoy that nice pat on the back every once in a while. But there will come a time … Continue reading LET GO OF THE NEED FOR APPROVAL